Enjoying Princeton in the Midst of Local Improvements

This street is closed…can’t turn there…traffic, traffic, everywhere! No matter where you try to go in Princeton these days, it seems more cars are on the road and road closures don’t make things any easier. Multiple construction projects are underway in and around downtown, with long term goals of creating better environments and infrastructures for enjoying town. Unfortunately, the projects, road closures and reduced parking, in the short term, can make life stressful and complicated. To provide you with a full understanding of what to expect, how you will be affected and what you can look forward to, Princeton Perspectives has the 4-1-1 on all of the changes.

WITHERSPOON STREET REDESIGN

The on and off closures along Witherspoon Street from Nassau down to Spring Street have been the most noticeable and frequent lately, with more changes coming.

Princeton’s planning and engineering departments launched a master planning process to improve Witherspoon from Nassau to Valley Road back in October 2019, before COVID was on the radar. But the pandemic’s temporary changes to the area, to allow for more pedestrians, outdoor dining and retail spaces, had an impact on the desires and outcome for the final project.

For pedestrians, the biggest change to come will be at the Nassau/Witherspoon traffic light. A project of the NJ DOT, the light will become fully actuated, which means a pedestrian must approach and push the signal for the light to change. Traffic along Nassau Street will flow uninterrupted unless and until someone pushes the button to cross. The standing areas on both sides of Nassau St. will also be bumped out, widening the sidewalk to shorten the pedestrian crossing area.

Since January, physical construction has been taking place on Witherspoon nearest Nassau St. with utility companies including Verizon Communications, NJ American Water, PSE&G and Crown Castle installing and connecting new and old systems. When the roadway project is complete, there will be a 5-year moratorium on digging up the road, so some of this work is in preparation for future expectations while some is to meet current needs.

Later this month, we’ll start to see physical construction of the sidewalks and roadway. Washington from Nassau to Spring Street is expected to be worked on first. The plan is to have one lane of traffic open throughout the construction, except for some short durations (hourslong, not days) where it is necessary to block vehicle passage. Pedestrian passageways will remain at all times.

The goal here? To create a more walkable and comfortable outdoor/dining space by widening sidewalks to 18 feet, permanently changing Witherspoon to one-way vehicle traffic from Nassau to Spring Street, with one 12 ft. travel lane and a 10 ft. service lane on the western side of Witherspoon. Several, if not all, of the metered parking spots are likely to be removed.

“There is adequate parking within the garages in town – Spring, Hulfish and Chambers,” explains Jim Purcell, Princeton Assistant Municipal Engineer. “Over the course of the last year we were able to open up some additional spaces knowing this project was coming. The garage typically had the top level closed and now it’s open to add capacity.”

Once this portion of Witherspoon is completed, construction will move to the area between Spring and Green Street, and when complete, two-way traffic will continue along that section of roadway. From Nassau to Green, Witherspoon Street will have urban trees planted, replacing the dying Bradford Pear trees that exist today.

Then, Phase 2 is expected to start. Not yet fully developed, the concept has been presented to the public and is on the municipal website alongside all of the improvement plans. Municipal leaders are still accepting community input on this phase until the presentation to Council on March 28th. This phase, from Green St. to just north of Franklin Road (at the bus stop in front of the Avalon Bay apartments) aims to better incorporate sidewalk and pedestrian considerations, on-street parking, bike lanes and more. There is hope the construction contract will be awarded for Phase 2 by the end of November and will begin work as Phase 1 is finishing up. Plans for Phase 3, Witherspoon from Franklin to Valley Road are still very fluid.

The tricky part of getting this work done is to continue to welcome residents and visitors to downtown Princeton, by keeping walkable and bikeable passageways open. As they try to make Princeton a more usable town, the center of town may best be avoided by vehicles in the meantime.

“If you’re coming to downtown to come to a restaurant, don’t try to drive down Witherspoon or Chambers. Go down Wiggins to the Spring St. garage – that’s our ideal,” explains Purcell. “If everyone stays away from the central business district in cars and works around to the garages, they can still enjoy Princeton.”

NEW HOTEL ON CHAMBERS ST.

If you plan to drive around to a garage, keep in mind Chambers Street (along the first block adjacent to Nassau) is also soon home to a new construction project. Though work on the Graduate Hotel has been taking place on the inside for a while, the outside work, and its effects on the public are about to be felt.

Chambers Street will soon be the crew’s work zone, with traffic shifting, sometimes going down to one lane and possibly times of full closure. The sidewalk at 2-4 Chambers St. and half of the roadway there will be primarily affected. Stores along Nassau St, including Sakrid, Milk & Cookies, Small Bites and Jammin’ Crepes, will remain in place and open to the public and the historic exterior of the building that rises above them will be preserved. But be prepared for scaffolding and a canopy to go up over the sidewalk as they do renovations on windows above.

While 20 Nassau stays, the building portion at 2-4 Chambers St. is being torn down. The two will become one and turned into an approximately 180-room hotel with a lobby, grab-and-go café, eatery as well as an 80-space underground parking area for hotel use. The hotel is environmentally designed to a LEED Silver standard. Free bicycle rental is also expected for guests, as many are expected to be in town for the university.

Keep in mind, COVID delayed this project and the physical exterior construction is just set to begin. It could potentially impact traffic until its projected opening date before graduation of 2024.

GRIGGS CORNER LOT GETS BUILT UP

The downtown area is expected to get even busier this year with construction at the lot next to Mistral. Approvals have been granted, but unexpected delays are pushing back the May start date for construction of the metered parking lot at Hulfish and Witherspoon, which is to be renovated into a 3-story building. Known as Griggs Corner lot, (in recognition of the former Griggs Imperial Restaurant that once stood there) it will become home to 8 residential units with retail underneath.

Five 1-bedroom and three 2-bedroom units are expected, with courtyard space and a common roof with private open space. This design is also expected to include vegetative roof areas, using native plants.

For its tenants, 32 parking spaces will be provided at the Hulfish and Chambers St. garages, but it is important to note the building site will additionally eliminate 24 metered spots from the public use.

EXPANSION OF CELLULAR SERVICE

While you’re driving around trying to get to your parking destination or walking to enjoy downtown, it may be helpful to know that Verizon is upgrading its wireless network in and around Princeton. And, if you’ve ever said, “Sorry, I lost you!” while passing through some of Princeton’s notorious dead zones, you are likely to appreciate the upgrade.

With the expansion of 5G, to accommodate increased usage by customers and a desire to enable download of larger files, its estimated 10 small cell sites will be added in Princeton by Verizon that, in conjunction with its other technologies, intend to improve experiences for everyone.

“If you’re using a highway as an analogy, the small cells are expanding the number of lanes,” explains Andy Choi, Communications Manager for Verizon. “If you’re stuck in traffic, it’s a lot of cars trying to get to one place with a limited # of lanes. If you expand 1 or 2 more lanes, more traffic will get through at a faster rate. Here we’re providing more lanes for data to transfer back and forth between what you’re downloading, sending, consuming.”

You likely won’t notice the small cell nodes, as Verizon attempts to blend them into our existing infrastructure by matching the color of nearby poles or camouflaging them into their environment. Overall, small cell additions to Princeton should provide a stronger connection.

“Princeton is one of many communities we’re looking to help upgrade and connect. As we become more and more dependent on our mobile networks, whether at home, on the go, on laptops or mobile devices, we know how important it is to stay connected,” adds Choi.

While underway, each of the above projects may be a hindrance or inconvenience to your enjoyability of downtown Princeton. Despite the removal of several parking spots, Princeton’s engineering department reviewed parking analysis for each project and anticipates there will be enough parking to accommodate all who need it. Once complete, it is expected these projects will help build a more vibrant, walkable and connected town. During construction, all are likely to vary regularly with regards to their impact on traffic and the community. To know the latest, you can sign up to receive email or text alerts by going to the municipality’s Notify Me page and choosing the alerts you want to receive.

What is a SID and How Will it Benefit Princeton?

There’s a reason people choose to live in Princeton as opposed to some of the neighboring towns. Besides its highly rated schools, the walkability and vibrancy of town is another strong attraction. Therefore, many would argue that keeping the business community strong and providing opportunities for it to be even stronger and more vibrant would benefit both businesses and residents alike. However, there has been much debate about how to best make this happen.

For decades, there have been talks amongst the business community, and under the guidance of the all-volunteer Princeton Merchants Association (PMA), many Princeton commercial interests worked together to pursue a strong coalition for years. When COVID hit, and owners were at the same time trying to save themselves and creatively help the overall community, it was realized that more was needed. Funding, a fulltime employee and a need for dedicated marketing experts were some of the things that were noted. That’s when representatives of PMA, working with Princeton Councilwoman Michelle Pirone Lambros, approached Princeton’s Economic Development Committee. Council then commissioned a study and appointed a steering committee (comprised of 18 property, business and nonprofit leaders), which hired a consultant and ultimately conceded that the creation of a public-private partnership known as a Special Interest District (SID), should be the way forward. On February 28th, Town Council voted unanimously to create the SID which will be known as Princeton Business Partners (PBP). SIDs are guided by state statute, to create a management group that works with the municipality to promote economic growth.

“That’s been an old aspiration of many local entrepreneurs and city leaders. The pandemic has accelerated the need of forming a private corporation with the participation of local authorities to accomplish many tasks oriented to have a better Princeton, for both property and business owners, as well as for residents,” shares Omar Delgado, owner of Say Cheez Café and a member of the steering committee. “We expect to show Princeton as the best cultural destination for the arts, dining, and entertainment. All businesses will benefit from more loyal visitors, for welcoming more shoppers during cold months.”

The SID funding will come from a special assessment paid for by property owners (who will decide whether or not to pass this along to their tenants). Nearly 390 properties will be included in PBP, from across town. While it is recognized that some businesses may benefit more from the SID than others, the assessments will scale from 1-3%.

“We’ve been struggling with this point for 20+ years, talking about putting one in place. But talk only goes so far,” shares Josh Zinder, owner of five Princeton properties, including one that’s home to his company, Josh Zinder Architecture & Design. “My father used to tell me if you want to make money you have to spend money. That’s how I see this.”

The development of a SID was often thought needed to improve a dilapidated downtown area. But, through the years it has come to improve districts in already-thriving towns like Princeton, such as Livingston, Westfield and Somerville.

“Perhaps downtown Princeton is not dilapidated, but it certainly needs improvement, and the current methods are not doing the job,” believes Bill Hare, owner of a property at Nassau & Witherspoon that currently houses Dunkin Donuts and Gratitude Yoga. “Beyond just my view of the downtown and how that can be addressed by a SID, I would like a SID to address the regulatory process of renovating properties and opening new businesses. The town does a good job working with property owners to renovate properties so that new businesses can move in. However, no process is perfect, and a SID could speak for the downtown and businesses with one voice to suggest improvements or changes to the process.”

And many other local property/business owners agree. A letter signed by 60 of them was read aloud at the February 28th Council meeting, before the vote. In addition, over a dozen others called in and voiced their support.

But the community has not all been in agreement. Nearly a dozen property and business owners also called in on Feb. 28th and shared a desire to postpone or stop the vote, citing concerns of how the benefits would outweigh the cost, notably with how far reaching the SID is with regards to some of the businesses it’s chosen to include.

Barry Perlman stated, “SID is a great idea for restaurants, retail spaces, etc. But I work for Princeton Penn Medicine. Including physicians’ offices is just casting a wider net and collecting more money for it.”

Lance Liverman, former Councilman and residential and condo developer agreed, saying, “I support the SID, but I don’t think it should be town wide. There’s very little a SID can do for me and my business. I’d like to see lines drawn on the SID to make it more advantageous.”

This concern was highlighted during the discussion between Council members and some of the steering committee representatives. Some responses shed light on the fact that the central business area of Princeton keeps growing, year after year, and there is no knowing where to draw that line. While others explained that whether it’s the addition of a Princeton transit stop near their office or to be included in a business directory, there are benefits.

“Property owners understand tenants come and go, they may need help at any time for zoning changes, allowable use changes, new signage, helping them attract tenants, keep tenants, etc. Having a vital town, with great attractions, stores, restaurants and other services, makes people want to live and work here,” contends Councilwoman Pirone Lambros. “A property owner may need it down the road. That’s why cost could be nominal, but everyone participates.”

Princeton tax-paying residents, who asked to remain anonymous, shared concerns with Princeton Perspectives about how this will truly impact Princeton and its residents. They stated it appears to be mostly developers and larger business owners that have led the charge for a SID. And there’s concern for the small business owner trying to stay afloat.

“The local businesses, they’re just starting to come back, and they’ll be hit with another ‘tax’.

It’s like they’re using COVID as an excuse,” shared one resident. “No amount of taxes will fix the amount of work that needs to happen to come back from that.”

There is also a worry that personal interest may be rising above public interest, as another resident suggests.

“Times pass and small people eventually get squeezed out by the bigger ones (referencing the rental costs allowing many chain stores to take over spaces once used by mom & pop businesses). We can’t go back, but I think there always needs to be a good check on developers and that’s always been an informed electorate and responsive government. I feel the voices of the powerful and getting louder.”

For those smaller business owners that have thus far sustained, there is concern about what kind of voice they’ll actually have with PBP, as was shared at the public meeting.

“Property owners are stakeholders, but business owners are not included as stakeholders. I get a little bit concerned about what voice we have,” expressed J. David Waldman, owner of Rojo’s Roastery in Palmer Square.

Palmer Square tenants, because they already pay into promotional funding provided by Palmer Square Management, will be paying a lower assessment. Princeton Shopping Center has a similar situation, and the hope is that PBP and those management companies will develop a collaborative relationship and leverage their opportunities. But the SID is also being set up in a way to enable the business owners themselves to have a voice. With the approval from Council, four incorporating officers have been chosen. They will become part of a 15-member volunteer board, comprised of property and business owners (with a 51% property-owner ratio). There will be one fulltime paid employee to run the SID, 2 municipal representatives and several committees will be formed, to focus on specific aspects of the SID. Committees can be joined by anyone that wants to be involved. PBP will be held to the open public meetings act, so all residents and businesses will have a regular chance to listen and share feedback. For those who voiced strong opposition leading up to the Council vote, there is hope they will take part.

“We’re going to keep inviting them to participate and be part of the process. Some of the most vocal members in opposition, we’ve invited to be on a committee. Andrew Seigel (owner of Hamilton Jewelers) went to the steering committee convinced this wasn’t going to be right, yet the more he looked at it the more he believed in it. A lot of it is just a process of understanding and learning about it,” Pirone Lambros explains.

There is hope that as opponents learn more and participate, they will see the reward. But there are some elements worked into the SID creation to provide controls if they do not. The SID fees will be assessed annually, so if the costs don’t appear to match the rewards, business and property owners can speak up and attempt to fix them. There is also a term limit.

“The SID automatically terminates after five years unless the town votes to extend it,” details Hare. “This gives five years for the SID to prove to everyone that it works. If it doesn’t function as desired, I will be glad to see it terminated and then we can try something different. However, I expect it to be successful.”

Editor’s Note

Artwork: Arts Council of Princeton’s LOVE mural at the Princeton Shopping Center

There are many reasons to share about why one loves Princeton. It’s common for someone raised here to either never leave or to return to raise their families. A unique suburb, with a beautiful downtown, it attracts many to the great schools, to learn about its history and of course, to attend or visit Princeton University. Princeton is simply a great place to love and be loved.

In this month’s issue, A Love Letter to Princeton, we share with you who loves and lives here, why they love Princeton, how to love in Princeton and so much more! With Valentine’s Day just behind us, love is in the air!

You may have your own, but it’s always interesting to learn what others find so lovable about this town. Be sure to click below and watch this month’s Pulse of Princeton to learn what it is that people love the most!

Whether it’s at the University, a local job or simply fate, there are many couples that met here and have chosen to stay. Love Stories: Made in Princeton shares a few of these special connections that started here and created lifelong relationships and locals.

You too may be in a long-term relationship but it’s easy to let the day-to-day get in the way of sweet gestures and fun outings. In Romantic Princeton: Get Out and Enjoy That Special Someone we share with you some great local places you can go to or things you can enjoy to get out of the house and have fun together.

In addition to having things to enjoy, Princeton is also full of great people. One born-and-raised resident loves this community so much, he’s now helping to run it! Loving Princeton, One Long- time Resident’s Perspective is Mayor Mark Freda’s look at what life was like back in the day, what it’s like today, and why he’s loved it all.

For some, it’s not always easy to show your love. How to Keep the Spark in Your Relationship Despite the Pandemic shares tips from someone whose job it is to keep couples together. Even in these tough times, there are some simply changes you can make to keep the love alive in your life, too.

In our last issue we shared some important information about safety on our roadways – and a new law is already trying to make improvements. Perspectives Revisited shares the details about this and the latest on COVID-related shortages. We also have our first Letter to the Editor, providing a personal perspective on an issue currently facing Princeton.

If there’s one thing Princeton is not short of, it is opinions. We are a diverse community and we want to share diverse perspectives with our readers. So, for next month, please submit a Letter to the Editor on a topic that is meaningful to you. We’ve covered pretty much everything in our nearly two years of Princeton Perspectives, so let us know your thoughts on what’s happening!

It’s wonderful to write about love, of people and of Princeton. We hope you can sit and enjoy this issue – with the sun shining through your window and a smile on your face! Next month, we’ll take a close look at some current local decisions and what their impacts will be on the people of this municipality.

Thanks for reading, and please share with a friend!

Pulse of Princeton: What do you love most about Princeton?

Love Stories: Made in Princeton

Love can spark when two people are at the right place at the right time. When that occurs in Princeton, a town where people often come and stay forever, it is the perfect recipe for a lifetime romance. Such is the case in the following three Princeton-made love stories:

A University Romance…
Heather Harnly and Greg Hughes

Though official statistics have not been recorded, it’s been said that 50% or more of Princeton University undergraduates marry each other. Heather Harnly and Greg Hughes contribute to this beautiful statistic.

The two spent their teens years rowing competitively, competing around their home state. Upon starting as freshman at Princeton University (PU) in 1992, they continued rowing and would cross paths around the boat house, never knowing they had both participated in some of the same events back home in Washington. That was until luck put them on the same flight from Seattle to Newark returning to school after winter break.

“We saw each other in the airport then realized we were on the same flight, so sat next to each other (it was back in the 90s when you could just sit anywhere on a plane),” shares Heather. “When we arrived, we were offered the airporter transport and then our first dinner was at Winberries.”

That flight led to nine years of dating, marriage and kids!

Upon graduating, Greg had plans to go to Canada (where he’d attended high school) to teach history and coach rowing. When he couldn’t get a Visa, he called his PU rowing coach to inquire about job opportunities in the area. He ended up taking an unpaid coaching internship back at the university which not only put him on track to work his way through the coaching ranks to become the today’s Heavyweight Rowing Coach – it also put him within an hour’s drive of Heather.

She would begin medical school in the fall of 1996 at University of Pennsylvania and was then able to move onto a residency at Robert Wood Johnson in New Brunswick. The two officially moved in together in 2000.

A year later, Heather and Greg got engaged while on a trip to Bermuda for a friend’s wedding. It was in 2002 the pair returned to Washington to say “I do” on San Juan Island. But they are a true Princeton love story, as Princeton is where they met and chose to call home.

“Growing up out west, I loved it because it is so beautiful, but I’ve never felt a sense of community like I feel here,” Greg explains. “On the west coast, everyone is outwardly nice, they smile and wave, but you don’t get to know them. Here, there’s a gruff exterior, but people will drop everything to help you out. It’s really sucked me in. It’s a pretty special town.”

Heather says her passion for Princeton developed in stages through the years.

“I was amazed to discover that it was a great town. I’ll be honest, I didn’t appreciate it as an undergrad at all, you stay in your bubble on campus,” she notes. “As a young couple, we realized, oh we have paychecks, we can go out to dinner. Look at these amazing restaurants! Then as we had kids, what an amazing town to have kids in. The great community of people that live here. At every level it’s been a constant exposure and appreciation of what the community is for all ages.”

The PU alums are now raising two daughters, who both attend Princeton Middle School.

A Middle School Legacy…
Andrea and Jonathan Hunt

And the middle school in Princeton is where our next love story began. Of the 336 teachers working at Princeton Public Schools, only two fell in love after bonding over 7th grade Social Studies. It’s true! Andrea first met Jonathan Hunt when she came for an interview and was asked to teach a lesson to his World Cultures and Geography class at John Witherspoon Middle School (now, Princeton Middle School).

“After I was hired, Jon and I worked together as a 7th grade social studies team. It was not an instant connection at all actually! My first year working at the middle school as grade partners I thought Jon hated working with me!” recalls Andrea. “Through working together, we communicated a lot about improving the curriculum, lessons, and projects. We worked together for several years before our coworker relationship became a friendship and ultimately turned into love.”

Outside of school, the two let their desire to study and learn flow into their dating life as well. They would sit at night and research a good hiking spot, then get up in early in the morning, pick up some food and spend hours getting lost in the woods. Andrea also recalls one perfect date, when they took a train to New York City.

“We left as early in the morning as possible and spent the entire day exploring without any plan in mind. We walked all over the city going in and out of stores that caught our eye and stopping at little shops to pick up food. One of the times we needed a break, we sat down on a bench and were closely greeted by a squirrel (which is Jon’s favorite animal). Though we have them all over our backyard, I had never been that close to a squirrel in my entire life!“

Both Andrea and Jon had been previously married, so when they decided the time was right, they opted not to follow the traditional formalities or big wedding. They married in October 2019 and their family began. Jon’s two children from his previous marriage (Ava and Bradley) helped them start their lives together. Nearly two years ago they added Charlie and new baby, Maddy, is six months old.

“Life is mostly focused on the kids and caring for them. Any down time we have is spent playing with the kids, building castles, running around outside, or figuring out a fun craft they can make and display around the house,” Andrea adds.

Princeton brought them together, and they wouldn’t have it any other way. Both Andrea and Jon not only love teaching 7th grade, but they love doing so at Princeton Middle School.

“While other couples might not enjoy working with their significant others, Jon and I truly enjoy collaborating together on lessons, teaching units, and creating projects. We are pretty lucky that we have the extra time together while commuting to and from work where we can laugh and share stories about the day.”

Decades of Togetherness that Started Here…
Allen and Rhona Porter

Laughter, an important key to long-term relationships. That’s what Rhona says has kept her in love with Allen over nearly 54 years of marriage. Well, laugher and so much more.

“Allen is my steady rock. He’s logical, he’s patient, he’s thoughtful and he’s kind. I’m not as patient and he keeps me grounded,” she shares.

And for Allen, “She has this warmth and enveloping personality. She can just go into a room and her outgoing nature, she’s so nice and good to be with, she could walk out with 2 or 3 potential friends,” he explains. “She’s just a wonderful woman.”

Allen first came to Princeton in 1959 as an undergraduate at PU and met Rhona after returning to the area from University of Virginia Law school in 1966. She had just moved here for her first teaching job at Princeton High School. Rhona was planning leave her job and spend the summer in Europe when the school year ended.

“I met some woman and she said you need to come to the Jewish Community Center because there’s a fellow there that’s cute and smart and rich. I said, I’m 21 years old, I don’t need to go to a lonely-hearts club. She said, no, you need to come!” recalls Rhona. “So finally, I relented, and I went to this young singles group. And I was not very taken by any of the people there, until this one guy walked in who was cute. We started to talk, and he made me laugh, he has a great sense of humor. And I knew then I was going to marry him.”

Allen, who conceded he was not rich, wasn’t quite as convinced at their first meeting, but he felt they had good chemistry, so he called and asked her out. That was in April. By June, Allen hadn’t popped the question, so Rhona went to Europe with plans to relocate when she returned. After her months away, she was pleasantly surprised upon landing.

“He met me at the airport with my parents and that clinched the fact I was going to be coming back here. I really wanted to teach younger grades, so it brought me back to this area and I would end up teaching 6th grade in Hopewell,” Rhona acknowledges. “But, if Allen hadn’t met me at the airport, I wouldn’t have stayed. It was so exciting; he was beginning to feel for me what I’d felt for him from day one.”

Rhona and Allen dated for the next several months and were engaged by the end of 1967. They married near Rhona’s hometown in northern NJ in June 1968 and then returned to and remained in Princeton. By 1970 they had their first of two daughters and were entrenched in the local community. Allen had joined a local law practice and became the Princeton Planning Board attorney for over 40 years. During that time, he also joined the boards of several local nonprofits including at the Library, Princeton Area Community Foundation and The Jewish Center. Rhona returned to school and got her MSW, which led to her working at Princeton Family Service and then at Elm Court. She worked for Princeton University admissions, joined The Jewish Center Board and performs with OnStage around the community. The Porters bought an apartment in New York City 12 years ago, but their primary home remains here.

“We know lots of people in town and think this town is wonderful,” remarks Allen.

While reminiscing about their lives together, the Porters recognize how lucky they are not only to have found each other, but to have been on their journey here. They look forward to many more years together.

Romantic Princeton: Get Out and Enjoy That Special Someone

The pandemic has certainly affected every facet of our lives…and there’s no doubt that it has taken a toll on romanticism. Whether it’s the fact that many couples are spending so much time together at home (working from home, etc.) or masking/unmasking has kept you from enjoying some of your traditionally favorite activities together, it’s time to get back in the game! Valentine’s Day may have passed, but there are 364 other days in the year to get out and enjoy time together. Despite all the ups and downs of the past two years, I’m happy to report there are a variety of things you can safely do around Princeton to reignite that spark, keep things burning or simply get out of your house with someone you care about.

BREAKING (AND MAKING) ‘BREAD’ TOGETHER

My son recently said to me, “Oh, you and dad are actually going out tonight?” Ouch! The comment was referring to our spending many a weekend night on our couch recently rather than at a restaurant or out with friends, because the frigid temperatures and Omicron surge were keeping us home. But a last-minute invitation to try out a new cooking school got us off the couch and provided a much-needed date night!

Roll the knife, tuck your fingers, blanch the vegetables before you cook them in flavorings. These don’t sound romantic in their own right, but just wait. These tips were among the many we picked up at our private lesson with Alex Van Dyke, who recently started Van Dyke Hospitality and Brick Farm Cooking School. The Bucks County native and Johnson & Wales University graduate has been working in restaurants since he was 15. Through the years, he has worked at Daniel in New York City, Husk Restaurant in Nashville, cooked for 3 U.S Presidents (Clinton, Obama, Biden) and was most recently executive chef at The Perch at The Peacock Inn. His past created who he is, but his present desire is to share his love of cooking with the community through the school he opened in December.

And we felt the love. First, there’s the passion Alex has about everything cooking-related, and you can feel it when he shows you things as simple (or so you thought) as how to properly chop a vegetable. Then, there’s the relationship he has with farm, fresh and local ingredients which you see as he demonstrates how to use not just the florets, but the leaves and stems of a cauliflower. We opted for a vegetarian menu, but varieties of classes are offered including for meat-eaters, those desiring knife skills, for picky eaters, with exotic menus or meant for everyday cooking.

“To make an impact in the community and environment through my partnership with Brick Farm and local farmers,” Van Dyke says is his focus today. “Our classes showcase a variety of topics to appeal to any interests, where community feedback inspires the creation of current and future classes.”

The cooking school is currently housed in the Red Barn Milk Company up Route 31, just north of Hopewell. COVID precautions are taken, and each class has a max of 12 students. If you prefer a more personal opportunity, you can opt for a private lesson like we had. The class is really hands on, and the food combinations you create are delicious. Cooking together is something most couples rarely do, and it really makes for a fun time. And I’ll add, yesterday, when I walked into the house to the smell of butter and thyme (my husband was trying to recreate the croutons we made in class) it triggered great emotions! If you simply can’t envision cooking with your spouse – go with a friend!

LOVE IS ALL AROUND

Another place you could go together to feel the love is Small World Coffee. In fact, with Love Show on display at the Witherspoon location, love is literally all around!

Last fall, the café requested artistic entries and now the walls are covered with 35 displays of artwork from local artists, through March 1st.

“We asked people to respond to the word ‘love’ in any way that resonates with them. It doesn’t have to be romantic love, just love,” explains Jessica Durrie, co-owner of Small World. “It’s an opportunity for all different kinds of people, whether they’ve been in an art show or not. We want it to feel very open.”

Artwork by Julie Rosenthale

The art on display was chosen from amongst 120 entries, with artists ranging in age from high schoolers on up. If you and your significant other want to really take in the love while viewing the show, you can also try Small World’s Love Blend, a combination of Papua New Guinea, Sumatran and Guatemalan coffees, which is on tap every day in February as the coffee of the month.

IT’S ALWAYS WARMER WHEN YOU’RE WITH SOMEONE YOU LOVE

If you can soak up the sunshine and don’t mind the colder temperatures, there are several local areas you can explore outdoors together, too. We shared with you in our December issue that Grounds for Sculpture has a creative multi-sensory experience going on until the end of February. Night Forms: dreamloop by Klip Collective is a great way to take in the grounds together with the sculptures lit up at night. But, as Grounds for Sculpture was named as a top romantic outing by several Princeton Perspectives’ readers, we want to share that the 42 acres of land, home to an arboretum, sculpture garden and museum can also be very romantic by day. Simply walking the grounds, seeing the reproduced Monet statues and more can be enough. Or you can make a day of it with brunch, lunch or dinner at Rat’s (voted Philadelphia Magazine’s “Most Romantic Restaurant”) and then stroll amongst the artistic creations.

If you don’t have a fear of heights, you can strengthen your commitment to your partner by walking together over a bridge! The Washington Crossing Bridge, to be more specific. Don’t look down (it’s scary!) as you hold hands and walk across from Titusville, NJ to Washington Crossing, PA, but be sure to look to the side and take in the view of the Lower Trenton Bridge (a.k.a. the Trenton Makes Bridge). That view is especially romantic when all lit up. There is a walking area on the bridge, so you won’t be too close to cars. Once across, you can enjoy Washington Crossing Historic Park. Especially in the cold, you can stand on the banks of the Delaware and imagine feeling what Washington and his troops may have felt before they crossed in 1776. If you go on a Friday morning, you can join a group hike through the park at 10am.

A second bridge you could romantically enjoy together is the Swinging Bridge over the Stony Brook in Institute Woods. Use this map as a guide, and you will find this rickety, old bridge where Founders’ Walk meets the River’s Edge Trail. Whether on Valentine’s Day or any day, being out in nature with the one you love can be very enticing. Especially if you don’t get a lot of alone time together, being out in nature with an opportunity to share conversation, is great for relationships.

In fact, the National Park Service says, “Because hiking ranges in difficulty from an extremely challenging climb to a casual way of spending time outside, it’s a great way to strengthen the friendships or bonds you have with your companions.”

It’s three miles round-trip to get through the woods to the bridge, but it’s a walk well worth it.  One reader shared, “You have to really explore those woods to find it, but once you do, it’s a magical little spot!”

For more hiking experiences, Sourland Mountain Preserve is another location that our readers said they enjoy outdoors together.

There are many great winter hikes, and the trails are less crowded in the cold. Sourland also has trails to suit the beginner to experienced hiker. If hiking in the cold doesn’t sound appealing, as the weather warms up, you can take a look at our recommendations here for tracks and trails to enjoy together all around the greater Princeton area.

SAY ‘I LOVE YOU’ WITH FLOWERS

Courtesy Princeton University

If you love natural beauty, but prefer a less woodsy setting, head over to Princeton University (PU). You can simply walk the grounds, taking in the scenery, or there’s one spot on campus that screams romance – the five-acre fenced in Prospect Garden. The garden lays behind Prospect House, which was once the University President’s home and later a dining facility. To verify its romantic appeal, it’s a common site for weddings! Some specific plantings were added immediately after it was built and beautiful trees and various changes have been put in through the years. Mrs. Woodrow Wilson was responsible for arranging the flower garden, and it was even her design to lay out the walking paths in the shape of the University seal. She was also responsible for planting the first evergreens. Since they hold their own, even through the harsh winter months, why wait until spring to check this favorite hometown romantic spot of several Princeton Perspectives’ readers? Walking paths and benches allow you to take in the calm and beauty offered right now. And as spring arrives and turns into summer, when the flowers are all in bloom, it is one of the most beautiful spots on campus. One reader shared that she still finds it as beautiful and romantic as it was 25 years ago, when her husband proposed by the fountain! If you’re thinking of taking the plunge – there’s an idea for you!

Maybe proposing isn’t in the cards for you right now, but I offer you a challenge. Pick one of the above experiences and do it with someone you love. Then, write to me and share the details of your outing. I promise, you will thank me for getting you off the couch!

Editor’s Note

Mahatma Gandhi once said, “The future depends on what you do today.” And with so many things going on in our lives and around Princeton, Princeton Perspectives sought to answer: Princeton’s Leaders: Are They Creating a Better Tomorrow?

Maybe tomorrow COVID will be gone. Maybe it will be here to stay. Either way, experts are working daily to try and find a way for us to safely move forward. With an unprecedented number of cases in NJ, and soaring numbers right here in Princeton, how are you feeling? This month’s Pulse of Princeton asks locals, now that it’s 2022 – is COVID still halting your life or are you moving forward?

Moving forward, whether by foot, bicycle or in a vehicle comes with inherent risks. But what if you learned there may be an opportunity to virtually eliminate risk, reducing car accidents and preventing all serious injuries or deaths? That is the goal in Princeton, and you can read about the current state of vehicle vs. pedestrian accidents and how officials are looking to the future in Working to Ensure Roadways are Safe for All Who Use Them.

Cars not only move along roadways, but they also need a place to park. And in some areas of Princeton, finding a parking spot is far from easy. Princeton Permit Parking: Will Council Plan for Residents, Businesses or Both? explores the multi-year discussions and proposed solutions Council is considering so that certain roadways could better meet the needs of the community.

Community is what happens when people get to know each other and develop a mutual respect. It is something that’s been very difficult to build when the pandemic has caused so much isolation. This has been particularly evident for kids and schools. In A Rise in School Incidents Prompts Parent Inquiries and Administrative Action we share the story of one local school and the efforts being made despite COVIDs inevitable effects.

Will it ever leave? Can we ever get on with our lives? COVID seems to be a part of every decision throughout every day. But there are people working to help us through and some of the work could rely on resetting your perspective. Read Vaccines, Boosters, COVID – Learning to Accept our New Normal for some expert advice from one of Princeton’s top docs.

If that can’t make you think differently, maybe our Perspectives Revisited can. This issue offers updates on two of our previous stories, both of which demonstrate how the future is being affected by changes of today.

I also want you to know that YOUR perspective is valuable and that’s why we’re expanding our Perspectives Revisited to include a Letter to the Editor. Whether you have a thought to share about something we’re covering in this issue or with regards to anything we’ve covered since March 2020 – please use this link to send your letter so we can share it with our readers.

I need your help for our February issue, too. I’m compiling some of the most romantic spots around Princeton, and I want to hear from you! Please email me here with a local spot where you proposed, your favorite place to have a date, your ideal active couple’s activity and more. Be sure to include lots of details so we can share it with our readers (you can submit anonymously or by name)!

Since it’s our first issue of 2022 I want to wish you all a very happy new year. And our February issue will post the day after Valentine’s Day, so let this be my wish that you either show yourself some love or share your love with others in a special way this year!

Pulse of Princeton: It’s 2022 – Is COVID Halting Your Life or are You Moving Forward?

Working to Ensure Roadways are Safe for All Who Use Them

As a child, we’re all taught to look left-right-left before crossing the street. Crosswalks were created to give pedestrians a place where they have the right of way and signals have been installed to inform pedestrians when it’s their turn to safely walk. Yet, despite all of these safety measures, there were 22 accidents in Princeton last year that involved cars hitting pedestrians, with victims ranging in age from 5 to 85.

The New Jersey State Police recently released statistics on motor vehicle fatalities from 2021, and it turns out it was the deadliest year on the road, up 22% statewide for people walking or biking. While it wasn’t Princeton’s deadliest year, August’s tragic fatality on Rosedale Road is one too many.

12 of the 2021 vehicle vs. pedestrian accidents took place when the vehicle was making a left turn. In 11 of the accidents, the pedestrians were legally walking, using guidance of a pedestrian walking signal and 15 of the 22 accidents took place at a crosswalk.

“Crosswalks invite pedestrians to walk there, that’s why most accidents happen there. Pedestrians are too quick to assume a crosswalk will protect them and while legally a car must stop, the motorist has to see there’s a pedestrian first,” explains Sergeant Thomas Murray, Princeton Police Department Traffic Safety Bureau Supervisor. “Our main adversary is growing volume and a trend of growing volume includes distracted drivers.”

When COVID hit in 2020, the roadways became virtually empty. For months and months, people schooled from home, worked from home, and intentionally didn’t go out. This also became a time when people, desperate for something to do, took up more walking and biking around town. With fewer cars travelling, 2020 saw nearly 1/3 fewer pedestrians get hit than we’ve since seen in 2021.

Yet the quiet roadways of 2020 meant a lone car on the road could travel at faster speeds and with less police enforcement reminding them to slow down. A need to keep the police force healthy and safe from COVID meant maximizing social distancing and fewer traffic stops. Attitudes about speed limits and safe driving were affected.

Another thing that 2020 brought with it was a change in attitude towards the police. Whereas in 2016 the Street Smart campaign had police interacting with 100s of locals to educate them about roadway safety, the Limit It campaign intended to educate drivers about obeying the speed limit, staying off cell phones and staying attentive was attempted from May-August 2021 and couldn’t gather the same engagement. Many had no interest in speaking to or hearing from the police, and therefore important traffic safety information was not well disseminated.

2021 saw more drivers eager to get back on the roads. That increased traffic at a time when there was already limited traffic safety education and cars were driving faster. In addition, frustration with the increased wait times at lights, an overreliance on car safety features (leading to drivers being less alert of their surroundings) and an increase of driver cell phone distractions led 2021 to be a dangerous year for pedestrians.

PRINCETON ACCIDENTS LEAD TO CHANGE

Throughout 2021 the Princeton Police Department reports there were 599 motor vehicle accidents. This is approximately 40% fewer accidents than recorded in 2016 and 2017, but still many are working from home and it puts things back on an upward trend. During this past year, 5% of the accidents involved pedestrians/bicyclists, the most pedestrian hits reported since the 2013 consolidation (with the exception of 2017, an unseasonable mild year that had people outdoors far later into the year than normal). All but one pedestrian hit in 2021 required medical attention. And in one instance, a man was killed.

There’s a crosswalk on Rosedale Road connecting Greenway Meadows and the drive to Johnson Park Elementary School. Advocates have long argued for the need of a crossing signal, to alert traffic to pedestrians. Increased crosswalk signage had just been put up and user-initiated flashing lights had recently been installed when an 82-year-old man triggered the alerts to cross the street. Yet he was hit and killed while crossing.

This adds to the three fatalities suffered on Princeton’s streets from 2015-2019. One of them was four years ago, when a woman walking across Washington Road was struck and killed by a truck turning left from Nassau Street onto Washington. It is believed the proper pedestrian cycle was observed and the driver may not have seen her from his vantage point in his cement truck.

An immediate push was made to create a safer intersection and a few years later, after Princeton approached the state, providing research and going through a thorough review, an All Pedestrian Phase adjustment was made at this busy Nassau/Washington intersection. This means that cars at all four intersecting roadways stop at the same time, allowing pedestrians to cross in all directions simultaneously without the possibility of oncoming traffic.

It appears this change is here to stay, but it doesn’t come without its flaws. The time allotted for pedestrians has already been adjusted twice, as attempts are made to find the right balance for motorists and walkers. Cars also now sit longer at the light, so drivers’ frustration has increased. Some get tired of waiting and turn right during a red signal from Vandeventer onto Nassau, despite the “No Turn on Red” sign hanging there. Traffic has also increased on side roads, such as from Moore onto Nassau as people try to find an alternate route.

“I have to try, along with the county and state entities, to move traffic as efficiently as possible. To set realistic speed limits, and not inconvenience people unnecessarily,” shares Sgt. Murray.

Despite the delicate balance between vehicle and pedestrian needs, accidents happen. Murray logs each detail and works very closely with the municipal engineering department assessing those details, looking for trends, determining if temporary speed controls should be installed, if greenery needs to be trimmed or if bigger structural or interventional changes are needed. And in February 2021, Princeton Council agreed to assist these efforts and work towards a Vision Zero Policy, allowing for a team of community members, including the Traffic Safety Bureau, Engineering and Planning departments, to create a plan to make Princeton a safer place to walk, bike and drive.

VISION ZERO

In addition to the members of those departments of the municipality, representatives from around town including Princeton Public Schools, Board of Health, Human Services, Princeton University, Princeton Senior Resource Center and resident volunteers are being led by elected officials to create safer roadways through the Vision Zero Task Force. A concept that initiated in Europe and has been utilized in the United States for more than 20 years, Vision Zero works to analyze crash data and determine where most crashes are taking place to then create a plan of action with achievable goals aimed at reducing the number of deaths and serious injuries to zero.

“Vision Zero begins with the premise that traffic deaths and serious injuries are preventable, and our existing techniques can be used to design for better outcomes. The US DOT’s Federal Highway Administration supports Vision Zero as part of its commitment to safety,” details Lisa Serieyssol, a member of the task force and past chair of the Pedestrian & Bicycle Advisory Committee who helped to bring Vision Zero into Princeton.

According to Serieyssol, Princeton is just the third community in New Jersey to work on a Vision Zero policy. Congresswoman Bonnie Watson Coleman is aligned with this vision, co-sponsoring a resolution in the House that aims to reduce traffic fatalities to zero by 2050 and there is a similar resolution sponsored in the Senate.

“The safety improvements may be in the areas of roadway design, policy changes, and enforcement practices,” notes Councilman David Cohen, chair of the task force. “The idea of using data to reach these decisions is that, rather than deciding to prioritize changes based on a few individuals’ theories of what will help, and where to prioritize action, we will base the recommendations on published research regarding best practices and prioritize improvements for those locations in town with demonstrated high-risk according to crash reports.”

Courtesy: Princeton Vision Zero Task Force, Princeton NJ High Injury Network

Princeton Police Department has worked with Engineering to identify problem areas and improve several roadway intersections in the past. These include adding reflective glass beading to crosswalks to help them stand out to drivers, installing pedestrian light signals, adding a sensor to traffic lights so they time properly with moving traffic and moving back curbsides to create better vision. Vision Zero may choose to utilize more of these or incorporate any number of the Federal Highway Administration’s Proven Safety Countermeasures. Since so many of the recent accidents involve people making left turns, they might find it best to redesign them as Reduced Left-Turn Conflict Intersections or they may seek to reduce crosswalk accidents through other advanced Crosswalk Visibility Enhancements.

As 2022 is the year Princeton is fully evaluating its master plan, the Vision Zero Task Force sees this as the perfect time to identify traffic safety needs, set the goals and start looking at how to implement them.

“Even after the Task Force completes its work and issues an Action Plan, it will take years to implement – capital projects are notoriously slow and constrained by limited financial and staff resources – and real progress is also dependent on a culture shift, prioritizing safety over speed and convenience, which can be even more difficult to accomplish,” Cohen notes. “Concerned members of the public need to understand that there is only so much government can do to achieve the goal of Vision Zero, and we all really need to take to heart the importance of putting aside that cell phone, or lifting our foot off the accelerator, not just when it is easy, but also when we are running late and in a hurry to get somewhere.”

Roadway safety is a combined effort. Not only between the entities responsible for educating, enforcing and developing safe driving opportunities but for pedestrians to pay attention before walking into a road and for drivers to eliminate distractions and remember they are responsible for being alert and driving with care.

A Rise in School Incidents Prompts Parent Inquiries and Administrative Action

COVID-19. Delta. Omicron. The virus that just goes on and on and on has taken its toll on our community in so many ways. In an attempt to stop the spread back in March 2020, we all recall when Princeton Public Schools (PPS) and others went fully remote for the remainder of the school year. The next fall PPS remained remote until an every-other-week schedule began in-person at Princeton Middle School (PMS) in October. Some students stayed home through the end of the 2020-2021 school year due to compromised health, fear and other anxieties. Warnings were made about the effects this isolation and separation would have on children.

So, when the 2021-2022 school year started, remote school was not an option. Experts felt there were parameters in place to safely learn in-person. This brought more than 800 children plus teachers and staff together at the PMS building, after an academic and social experiment that was bound to start showing its fallout. And in short time it did.

BEHAVIORAL EVIDENCE

“It’s not necessarily that we’re seeing different behaviors, but we’re seeing an increase perhaps in some behaviors because students haven’t had the opportunity to shake hands and gather together, so a lot of the feelings and excitement has been contained and they’re in a space they feel comfortable expressing themselves,” stated Dr. Edwina Hawes, PMS psychologist, at a virtual parents meeting on December 9, 2021 called to address a rise in behavioral incidents at the school.

Excited interactions, some leading to injury, were the most common but there were also more serious reports of harassing behaviors, taunting and more.

“Many of the things surrounding horseplay, that’s normal middle school behavior,” explained PMS Principal Jason Burr at the same meeting. “Our students don’t always know how to say I like you, so, they slug you in the arm.”

From October through December 2021, PMS reported 10 investigations, comprised of 4 Harassment, Intimidation, Bullying (HIB) incidents and 6 other alleged offenses that didn’t fall under HIB. HIB is the policy used to cover more targeted and intentional incidents, not necessarily inclusive of a slug in the arm or some other inappropriate behaviors. As explained on the district website, HIB ensures incidents get a thorough investigation, and as the BOE policy states is “perceived as being motivated by either any actual or perceived characteristic, such as race, color, religion, ancestry, national origin, gender, sexual orientation, gender identity and expression, or a mental, physical or sensory disability, or by any other distinguishing characteristic.”

For comparison, there have been only 1 HIB incident and 5 other offenses reported this school year amongst all five other PPS schools combined. And, if we go back to the last full “normal” year of school from 2018-2019, there were a total of 15 incidents reported the entire year at PMS (6 HIB, 9 other offenses).

It makes sense to see problem behaviors occurring more in the middle school compared to others since the pre-teen to young teen years are ripe with hormonal and physical changes, and a normal age for social experimenting. Combined with the strains of the pandemic, schools nationwide have been seeing this trend.

“The kid doing bullying is bigger, stronger, or more socially powerful, or it’s a group of kids picking on one kid. That power difference, that’s what makes it difficult or impossible for the kid being targeted to protect or defend themselves. For actual bullying, we need adults to step in and say that’s crossing the line. A lot of times, kids do bad behavior and it’s not bullying, it’s a clumsy effort to handle conflict or its poor emotion regulation skills, and that’s very different,” shares Dr. Eileen Kennedy-Moore, Princeton psychologist and author of Growing Friendships, a Kids Guide to Making and Keeping Friends. “We can certainly all see a big drop in civility of the adults, so it’s not surprising that when we adults are behaving with less than kindness that there’s less kindness among kids as well. The isolation of COVID has been very difficult on everyone.”

THE BACKSTORY

Many PMS parents were first informed about an incident at school on November 18th when Principal Burr emailed them informing that a student had been injured in the hallway. He stated that while they assessed the situation, a Shelter-in-Place had been called (this keeps learning continuous, but students are held in their same classroom or area for an extended period of time and do not enter the hallways). The school had multiple evacuations the previous week, so it wasn’t out of place to send an email explaining the Shelter-in-Place. What was different was the email included a message about the importance of being safe in the hallways and mentioned the need for students to refrain from sharing unverified information about the incident. That different verbiage sparked intrigue.

A week later, on November 23rd, Rocio Titiunik, parent of a current PMS 7th grader, sent an email to many PMS parents requesting signatures for a petition urging better intervention at PMS citing, “Many children at PMS have been victims of harassment, intimidation, bullying, violence, retaliation, and emotional distress” and claiming the November 18th incident was another in this series of events. A follow-up email from Titiunik explained she was reacting to the handling of an incident involving her daughter and a separate incident with her daughter’s friend. Parents started to talk and wonder.

What enhanced the situation further was a follow-up email sent by Principal Burr later that same day which stated, “I want to be very clear and direct: Last week’s incident was not the result of a fight, assault, or any form of violence whatsoever.”

Burr explained to Princeton Perspectives why the situation warranted multiple emails, “On the 18th, I knew what we’d concluded, but I wasn’t ready to share more details because we hadn’t at that point touched base with all the families involved.” He went on to add, “On the 18th, I wasn’t prepared in my message to discuss what I eventually discussed on the 23rd when I specifically called it an accident.”

Just after Thanksgiving, Princeton Middle School sent a survey to parents, trying to get a gauge of each student’s current experience at the school, including a question about whether their child felt safe. The circumstances of the incidents combined with the emails and survey prompted some to start wondering if things might be problematic, as Titiunik described.

“Certainly, given the news you read nationwide about how difficult it is for students to readjust to a full day of school and how they’re doing in the way they are making friends, keeping friends, all of those things, we thought it was a good time to try and get a measure of how people were feeling,” noted Burr, to explain the survey. “You want every child to feel safe at school. I think we can directly tie when a student feels safe at school, they’re more likely to do better. Safe means a lot of things, safety related to not just physical wellbeing but mental wellbeing.”

So, was the mental and social fallout of the pandemic leading to behavioral problems at PMS or was it a series of robust physical interactions gone awry? To respond to parental concern the previously referenced December 9th meeting was called with parents, to discuss the school environment, what was going on and what is being done.

At the meeting, Principal Burr noted that due to the current mental health crisis and pressure on kids to resume their lives and schooling, there have been several incidents. And yes, some had crossed the line, violating the HIB policy.

“These are challenging times. The way students emote may be a little different, the way they react may be different. The behaviors we see sometimes violate our code of conduct. And we have to deal with that accordingly but also with the understanding of all they’re experiencing,” Burr explained to parents at the meeting. He further shared with Princeton Perspectives, “We have discipline in this building, and we have rules. We need to do a better job of talking about restorative practices. We need to better relay consequences.”

What are the consequences? What should they be?

“Practically, if your kid has done something less than kind, it is important to be thinking about how to get that kid back on track with being kind. They need to recognize the impact of their actions and, if possible, make amends and certainly make a plan for what they can do differently moving forward,” explains Dr. Kennedy-Moore.

ADMINISTRATIVE RESPONSE

The district says it is being intentional in dealing with each individual situation. Some, like Titiunik, weren’t feeling enough was being done in response to her daughter’s situation and her petition led to a meeting with PPS Superintendent Dr. Carole Kelley and Principal Burr. She pushed for changes including a request for schools to be more transparent and communicative in detailing events or incidents and feels she’s already seen improvements in the emails. But Titiunik also feels the specifics of incidents can affect the outcomes.

“A written, verbal or physical act, or any electronic communication that results in harm, but is not motivated by a distinguishing characteristic, falls outside of the definition of HIB and is therefore not covered by the HIB policy. Of course, a non-HIB offense can still be addressed by the school as a violation of the school code of conduct, but how the school addresses it is not as tightly regulated,” expresses Titiunik. “This leaves a lot of children who are victims of non-HIB offenses unprotected, in the sense that they do not have a clear protocol that the school must follow to protect them, and they often see no resolution and no accountability.”

PMS is working to move forward in constructive ways to prevent future incidents, HIB or otherwise.

“All threats of harm to self are taken seriously and are addressed by employing district-wide procedures to ensure that students receive immediate attention and care,” shares PPS Superintendent Dr. Carole Kelley. “Meanwhile, initiatives are in place to proactively work with all students on self-awareness and self-management through lessons and school-wide initiatives.”

Both Kennedy-Moore and PPS suggest the greatest opportunity to do so is through empowering the child by building connections and community.

Some ways the middle school historically built community have been disturbed by the pandemic. For example, last school year started with no extra-curricular activities. Then they evolved and now most sports teams and after-school clubs are available. But even when offered, masks and social distancing may alter the engagement and connections. Community period is another mechanism once used that PMS hopes to revive 2nd semester.

“It’s mostly a way students connect to adults and others in the building in a non-academic way. Trying to get students to meet someone they feel connected with,” details Burr. “I have felt strongly to begin every community period with a greeting which involves a handshake. It’s thought if you have to shake someone’s hand you are less likely to take their French fries and throw them across a room or something.” Yet even a handshake is a no-no during COVID.

What is happening is that in good weather, PMS has a longer lunch block that allows the student to be outside with time to eat (safely and without a mask) and interact socially. When the weather is unfavorable, lunch block is indoors, rotating students between 3 areas. One is Social Emotional Learning (SEL). For approximately 15 minutes, teachers lead discussions on mindfulness or meditative practices, or engage the students in activities to learn healthy ways to identify and manage emotions, engage with others and make decisions.

“Spending 2 years alone in their bedrooms, staring at themselves on Zoom is not good for kids. It heightens their social anxiety, makes them more self-focused and self-judging. Exactly the opposite of what is needed for friendship, which is to be able to focus outward on ‘what can I give’. That generous outward focus and to be able to imagine other peoples’ perspectives,” explains Dr. Kennedy-Moore.

A mentorship program, linking students that are exhibiting social, emotional or academic concerns with staff members aims to use one-to-one connections to support the child. A new counseling group has also been established led by PMS school counselors to address pandemic-related stress.

Additionally, Health/Physical Education have become one of the primary core classes now offered four times weekly. This is being enhanced with the building of a new Yoga Studio for students to learn more about meditation and mindfulness, both to create openness and to ward off incidents but also as a space to think and learn about something one may have done.

PPS also wants to work collaboratively with parents to get through this transition. The December survey invited parents to become part of a Parent Focus Group. Run by PMS Asst. Principal Stephanie DiCarlo, it first met last week to identify parents’ areas of concern and will meet two more times to create an action plan of what can be done to reduce issues of concern and increase areas of positivity. In May, the group will assess how things are going and what can be done moving forward.

PPS has also put together a speaker series to provide insight and education to parents. To date, the schedule for Zoom speakers remains as follows:

Additionally, Understanding Brain Development and Mental Health: How Parents Can Build Resiliency and Healthy Coping Skills in Children and Adolescents led by child and adolescent psychiatrist Gal Shoval is to be held in-person on May 17th.

“I have enthusiastically supported Mr. Burr and his team in developing and expanding these programs. The middle school team works hard to integrate supports into all aspects of the middle school experience,” states Dr. Kelley.

Titiunik and other parents are appreciative of the support and that PMS has and will continue to implement ways to address the cause and effect of the incidents and to help the students through this unprecedented time.

With the rise of Omicron, some parents have requested the district return to remote learning, to keep kids safe. But as Burr pointed our earlier, safety is not just physical, it is also mental. December showed signs of students adjusting to a routine and each other. In compliance with recommendations from state and federal authorities and to continue to move forward, PPS aims to remain open, in-person to best meet the mental, educational and social needs of all students.